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Lil Babe Accessories | Accessorizing One Bow At A Time

A bow can be more than just a bow as it is used as an accessory piece to our assemble. Accessorizing is a skill for many and for me, not so much.

This is why I appreciate and value those who are extra creative and accessorize to a beautiful new level.

One person in particular is my sister, Karen. She has always been the most creative one and one that can really put a great assemble together with style. This is why it is no surprise that she has created some beautiful accessory pieces for her baby girl to wear.

It is with great pleasure that we introduce you all to Karen’s new adventure as the creator and founder of Lil Babe Accessories.

We got the inside and exclusive scoop for all of you in this interview with Karen.

Tell us a little bit about yourself

My name is Karen and many of you may remember me as the DIY expert on Momma Braga. I love doing creative crafts, food and accessories. I especially love special holidays and must say that Halloween is my favorite.

I am also a mom to a beautiful baby girl and am so grateful to be her mom.

Photo Credit: Kelly Middleton Photography

How did Lil Babe Accessories came to be? How did you come up with the idea?

Since I can remember I have always loved baby accessories, especially for little girls. So naturally when I had a baby girl, I handmade most of her headbands. From there, Lil Babe Accessories was born and I decided to share my creations with the world.

Why “Lil Babe Accessories”?

“Lil Babe” is just one of the many nicknames I gave my daughter. Lil is short for little and “accessories” because I wanted to expand my collection instead of just selling headbands.

What do you offer and how can people purchase from you?

At the present time, I offer a variety of different style headbands and bows for ages 0 to 5 years of age. You can find and purchase these products off of my Etsy shop.

What do you have upcoming? Anything we can announce first to our readers? 😉

Yes! I will be making and selling baby boy accessories very soon! I want to cater to both genders. Also…I am now introducing pre-orders, these are exclusive items that are offered to my followers and will not be sold on my Etsy page.

What do you hope each accessory and bow accomplishes?

I aim for a design that will compliment any outfit but most importantly feel comfortable! I also love to make show pieces that are created for special occasions.

Anything else you would like to add?

I have always loved shopping small and online myself. Being a mom and now owning my own small shop, it is amazing to see and hear all the support from the community around me. It’s one thing to hear it from family and friends but hearing compliments from strangers on your hard work – is amazing! The best part is that these strangers than quickly become friends. I am truly thankful for that!

There you have the inside scoop on Lil Babe Accessories and we love them!

We have personally used the bows and handbands created by Lil Babe Accessories and they are the first to stay on Nikki’s hair. We also love how they are unique bows and Nikki loves when she is asked where she got her bow. It gives her the chance to say it was handmade just for her. 😉

We highly recommend Lil Babe Accessories for your little one or even for someone else’s little one as it would make a bow-errific present!

Make sure to follow Lil Babe Accessories on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter as you will want to see the new creations that are made.

We want like to say thank you to Karen for taking the time to let us in on her new adventure and wishing her much success!

Until next time, Happy Parenting!

-Momma Braga

 

Aqua-Mazing Swimming Program Delivered By Aqua-Tots | Burlington Ontario

Aqua-Tots Swim Schools have been delivering crafted swimming programs for children in over 90 swim schools worldwide. The swimming lessons teach children of all ages and abilities how to be safe in and around the water to become water-smart from the start.

We have been with Aqua-Tots Swim School for a year now and it has been such an amazing experience for our family.

This is why we are excited to announce that a new Aqua-Tots location is opening up in Burlington, Ontario in late Fall!

The new location will be in the new Activity Plex facility which is a best in class center for children filled with activity studios for kids of all ages. This facility is located on 3410 Mainway, Unit #3 in Burlington. This location will be serving families in Burlington, Milton, Oakville, Hamilton and beyond.

You can expect the same amazing swimming lessons that are designed for babies, toddlers, and kids of all ages.

With a heated indoor swimming pool they are able to offer swimming lessons all year round and offer a variety of flexible swim schedules which is fantastic for families.

Services and Benefits

Some of the services and benefits you can expect when joining Aqua Tots Swim School are:

  1. Swim lessons will run both weekday morning, afternoons and evenings. There are classes also available on Saturdays and Sundays to give families flexibility with scheduling. They are open six days a week with the exception of Fridays.
  2. Membership at the Burlington location will include all the great perks that the Mississauga location has such as FREE Guardian Swim for caregivers with babies in Level 1 and Level 2; FREE bi-weekly Family Swim on Sundays; and a Swim Club for kids in Level 6 and up (this will be offered starting in November).
  3. The pool is heated to 90 degrees and the space will be a family-first environment with change tables, a play area, hair dryers and lots of change rooms. Also note that the facilities are always kept clean.
  4. They will be offering small group classes along with semi-private and private lessons.
  5. They will offer perpetual swim lessons; therefore, enrolment will be open year-round.
  6. In December they will be hosting a Swim with Santa for families with activities for all ages.
  7. Aqua Tots Swim School is just Aqua-Mazing so you don’t want to miss out!

Even though the Burlington location will open later on this Fall, you can pre-register for swim lessons now by emailing burlingtoninfo@aqua-tots.com to start an important life skill.

We are so grateful and thankful to Aqua Tots Swim School for helping our daughter learn this important life skill of swimming. This has been one of the best investments that we have done for our daughter and she enjoys it so much!

Aqua Tots Swim Schools has made a promise which is:

“We promise world class swim lessons to all students, regardless of age or ability. We promise to work with our community to help prevent childhood drowning and make Burlington children water-smart from start.”

It is a promise that they have been fulfilling throughout their over 90 swim schools worldwide and now they can fulfill it in the new community of Burlington and surrounding areas.

It’s a life changing experience and I can’t wait to see the new location in Burlington! Don’t forget to pre-register by email at burlingtoninfo@aqua-tots.com and if you want to get more information, click here.

The Aqua-Tots Team is also currently looking to hire Swim Instructors! If you or someone you know is interested in applying for this rewarding position, please send resumes to mississaugastom@aqua-tots.com.

Until next time…Happy Parenting!

-Momma Braga

 

 

 

 

 

 

*Please note that this article was not a paid or sponsored post. No compensation or commission will be given to Momma Braga in exchange for this post.

Building Swimming Confidence And So Much More | Aqua-Tots Fast Track Program

We adore swimming in our household and it is something that our daughter, Nikki, has enjoyed even more since taking classes at Aqua-Tots Swim School. We always felt that swimming was an important life skill to learn and we found it necessary for our daughter to learn them in a comfortable and safe setting.

We recently participated in Aqua-Tots Fast Track Program and we were astonished to see the leaps she took in her swimming skills. The Fast Track Program is a program that consists of four consecutive lessons over the course of four days with the same instructor. With the flexibility of my work schedule we were able to participate in the early morning class at 8:45 AM.

Now at first, I wasn’t sure how we were going to do early morning classes as Nikki isn’t a morning person but the simple thought of swimming had her up and ready to take on the world. With each class, I saw that she was getting better and much faster. Her confidence tripled as the days went by and it was simply amazing to see. I have to mention that Nikki’s biggest struggle with swimming has been going on her back. Nikki was so afraid to do back floats and by Wednesday she was doing them on her own which had me in tears. I was extremely proud that she conquered her fears and did it with such confidence. This all on its own was the breakthrough that we have been waiting for and it has finally arrived. That day I started telling anyone who wanted to hear that my daughter did the backstroke and back float. The best part was how proud Nikki was and every day that week, she would ask me, “Did I do good today?” Every day I told her that she did amazing and that I was so proud of her. Seeing her smile and how proud she was of herself, was all that I ever wanted and needed. That one week in the Fast Track Program did all that for us and we are truly thankful for it!

The Fast Track Program is designed to build on each child’s skills on what they are already learning and helps them propel their skills forward. It is also designed to build children’s confidence and aids with quicker retention of skills.

We saw these benefits right away from Day one and by Day four the transformation was remarkable. They do say practice makes perfect and that is exactly what the Fast Track Program does. By going to class every day for four days straight really gave my daughter the opportunity to hone in on the skills that she has already learned and advance in new skills too. Her muscles were grasping the concepts and motions making each day a little easier to learn. Building those muscle memories takes a lot of repetition and practice before it can become second nature and the Fast Track Program is a great example of this. It allows a child’s body to memorize what they need to do and then allows them to focus on adding new techniques and speed to their swimming. I know that Nikki was swimming a lot quicker than she was the week before!

The benefits are endless in our opinion as it really does wonders for a child’s learning on such an important life skill. But it is so much more than just swimming as it builds confidence and I need to mention that Nikki was at her happiest during the Fast Track Program. Her smile was permanent that week as she was so proud of what she accomplished in just four days. Now that in itself made it all worth it to us.

We captured Nikki on the last day of class to see what she thought of the Fast Track Program and even though she was quick with her message it was sweet nonetheless.

To learn more about the Fast Track Program, please contact Aqua-Tots Swim Schools. They do have the best swimming curriculum that truly benefits each child as it is based around your child’s learning.

Special thank you to Aqua-Tots Swim School for giving us a confident little swimmer.

Like Dory says, “Just Keep Swimming.”

Until next time…Happy Parenting!

-Momma Braga

 

 

 

 

 

This article is brought to you in partnership with Aqua-Tots Swim School.

Learning Friends 100 Words Book Leaps In Fun For Children | Product Review

LeapFrog is a favorite in our household as we enjoy the interactive, innovative and educational toys that they offer. For more than 20 years, LeapFrog has helped children expand their knowledge and imagination through award-winning products that combine state-of-the-art educational expertise led by the LeapFrog Learning Team, innovative technology, and engaging play – turning playtime into quality time that helps children leap ahead.

This is why we were extra excited to get one of the latest and hottest toys from LeapFrog, Learning Friends 100 Words Book™. This interactive toy is a touch and learn word fun in a book type format. So what does it do?

Touch and Learn

Discover abundance of things like animal noises, colors, food, clothes and body. These words are learned through pressing the pictures on each page. The beauty is that the words that were chosen are toddler friendly and appropriate by learning experts.

Three Play Modes

There are three play modes available on the Learning Friends 100 Words Book which are: Play words, exciting sound effects and fun facts. No matter which play mode you are in, it is a guarantee fun learning experience.

12 Learning Categories

There are 100 different words in the book and each page is designed beautifully and with many colors to engage the child in learning. The categories vary and some are foods, clothes, colors and more.

Bilingual Play

With a simple slide on the language switch, your child can learn about colors, objects and animals in both English and French – c’est magnifique!

Benefits

One can only except a learning piece to LeapFrog and they have done it so well with the Learning Friends 100 Words Book. The skills that your child can learn from this product are: First Words and Phrases; Colors; Animals; English; Geometry; Food and Nutrition; Opposites; and Human Body. There is just so many great things to learn in one little book.

#MelAndNikkiReview

Learning Friends 100 Words Book™ by LeapFrog has made it onto our most recommended list for children 18 months to 48 months. It is a great toy to help a child learn in a fun and colorful way. We love the ability to press each image on the page and have the child hear the word to associate it with the image. We have to admit that even though my daughter is almost four years of age, she really enjoyed the book and was very proud that she knew all the words. Now she is even more excited to use the book to teach her baby cousin who is five months old to give her a head start. 😉

Therefore, for this #MelAndNikkiReview we give it, 5+++ Leaps out of 5. It’s an amazing learning tool and it makes learning so much more fun. Also I need to mention to all the parents that this toy comes with a volume button so you can control how loud you would like it to be. As parents we truly appreciate and value that little extra function. Believe me this toy will not annoy you. 😉

If you would like to purchase this product please click here to see the closest location to you.

A special thank you to LeapFrog Canada for the opportunity to review this great product for our amazing readers and followers.

Until next time…Happy Parenting!

– Momma Braga

 

 

 

 

 

 

*Please note that the product was given in exchange for an honest review. All opinions expressed are our own and no monetary benefits were exchanged.

Capturing Moments | DIY Photoshoot

*Please note that these are ideas and we do stress to be very careful while taking photos of your child. Always make sure that they are always safe during the process. Happy Baby will make a Happy Mommy!

Written By: Karen Silva (A.K.A. Mama Silva)
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Sometimes we just want that “picture perfect” photo that looks like it’s straight out of a magazine or Pinterest. So how can you create this yourself? Where do you start? What would you need?

I will share with you some of the ideas I threw together and some tips and tricks I use whenever I feel like being a baby photographer for one afternoon. Please keep in mind that all babies and children are different so if yours is not photogenic just remember to work around their schedule and be PATIENT!

First, I think of a room or two around the house that I know will give me great natural light for my pictures. I always choose a room with large windows. Once I find the room I like, I gather all the décor pieces and background ideas to the room. In the mean time, I will either have my little one watch her favorite cartoons or have someone look after her just until I am ready to take my “model” to her photo shoot.

Background Prop & Décor Ideas

Some background ideas that you can use are blankets, fabrics, carpet or if you are willing to spend some money on professional looking backgrounds, you can buy some on Amazon. Also keep in mind of colors when choosing your background. You wouldn’t want to do a flowered background if you are planning on having your baby wearing all flower prints. You can also be creative and use nature as your background by having your baby lie on the grass.

Next, I think of some décor pieces that I would like to incorporate in the photo with my daughter. As an example, for her first Easter, I got some plastic eggs and a stuffed bunny to put around her while I took photos. You can add fresh flowers, your pets, toys and any props that you see fits your theme.


Dress Up

Now comes the fun part which I like to call “dress up time”. This is where you get an outfit or a couple that you would like your baby to wear for the “photoshoot”. Remember to play-off on your baby’s mood. I normally do just one outfit but may switch her headbands, this way I can focus more on getting that “money shot.”

Picture Perfect Tricks

You might be asking, what is the money shot? Well for me, it’s when I get that ear to ear smile from my little one. If she’s in a good mood I will get it no problem by just talking to her. Other times, I may need a little “motivation.” Some of my tricks that help me get that “money shot” is getting someone else to get her attention and get her to smile. If that doesn’t work or if I am by myself then I like to use some of her favorite toys… and that works for me EVERY TIME! 🙂

Finally, it is time to get my little “model” all dressed up and brought in the room. I use my cell phone to take photos but feel free to use a professional camera if you have one. Also remember to take breaks and just have fun with it. I love to do these on rainy days or when she is just bored of her usual routine. If you choose to do this on rainy day just remember that you will have to provide your lighting the right way to get a good photo. It’s a little more work but overall still worth it.

I hope these tips and tricks helped you and motivated you to do a little photoshoot of your own with your little one. It’s a great way to create some memories and spend some fun bonding time together.

If you choose to do this fun activity with your little ones, I would love to see them. You can tag me on social media on Twitter and Instagram.

Until next time…Happy DIY!

About the Author

Karen Silva is a writer on Momma Braga and is Melanie Braga’s sister. Karen graduated from Sheridan College with an Early Childhood Education Diploma. She worked with children for about five years before expanding her skills in Administration. Combined with her ECE background and passion for DIY projects and baking, she has recently joined Momma Braga and has become an expert writer for the blog. Karen hopes by sharing her knowledge, tips and tricks, she can bring families together through her creative ideas.

Karen is also a mother of one very adorable baby girl in 2018.

 

Our Little Family DIY Craft

Written By: Karen Silva
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When your baby can’t walk yet and they are just not into playing in their jungle gym anymore that day, you have to think of something to do to keep your baby entertained. This can be a difficult task to do especially if you have a young baby on your hands. I did some research and found the perfect activity that has helped me keep my four-month old baby entertained.

Not only did it provide great entertainment but it also became a great family project.

Our Little Family

This activity was seen on Pinterest which has become one of my obsessed apps of all time. When I saw how simple, fun and creative it was, I knew I just had to do it.

Material Needed: All you need is White cardboard, pencil, scissors, two different paint colours, glue, glitter and a picture frame.

Instructions:

  • First, I took the glass from the frame and put it on top of the cardboard and with a pencil traced it out. Once completed, cut it out.
  • Next step was to first paint my husband’s hands since his is the biggest with one paint color.
  • Once it was dried I did my handprint on top of his, then set it aside to dry again. (Tip note: I made sure we all used the same hand so it looked neater.)
  • I didn’t have a chance to buy non toxic safe paint so instead I used school glue. With the help of someone holding my daughter, I added glue to her hand and then pressed her hand onto my handprint.
  • Then sprinkle the glitter over before the glue dries and then tap off the access.
  • The final touch I added was the writing on the top, then put it in the frame.

This is how “Our Little Family” Craft turned out and we love how it came out. It was simple to do and it kept us all entertained, even my four-month old.

Give it a try and let us know how your little family turned out by sharing in the comment section below.

Until next time…Happy DIY!

 

About the Author

Karen Silva is a writer on Momma Braga and is Melanie Braga’s sister. Karen graduated from Sheridan College with an Early Childhood Education Diploma. She worked with children for about five years before expanding her skills in Administration. Combined with her ECE background and passion for DIY projects and baking, she has recently joined Momma Braga and has become an expert writer for the blog. Karen hopes by sharing her knowledge, tips and tricks, she can bring families together through her creative ideas.

Karen is also a mother of one very adorable baby girl in 2018.

 

Three Adorable Baby Art Activities

Written By: Karen Silva
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Hello my fellow momma and papa bears, it has been a while. I was pretty busy taking in my whole pregnancy and then the birth of my beautiful baby girl. Now I’m back and ready to share some great ideas with you.

These activities were inspired by my three month old baby as I wanted to do something special for Father’s Day. These art activities are super easy to do and does not require a lot of material. It can also be done for any day of the year as you don’t need a special occasion to have some creative fun. Please note that some of these you may need an assistant to help you or you may want to do them when your baby is asleep.

Leave A Little Sparkle

This is one of my favourites! Especially how I LOVE glitter!

Material Needed: A picture frame, paint brush, glitter, glue and Printer.

  • First, with a paint brush add glue onto the bottom of your babies feet (it is easier if you do one at a time).
  • Then place their foot onto the glass of the picture frame to make the footprint.
  • Once you have done that, sprinkle the glitter on top and dust off the access.
  • Once you have cleaned the glue off of your baby’s foot, repeat the same steps to the other foot.
  • Then on a computer, create a sign that says “Leave a little sparkle everywhere you go” (I found this quote on Google).
  • Cut and insert that sign in the picture frame. You can leave the glitter foot print design on the outside or you can flip it in, so that no glitter can be taken off.

Picture Perfect

Material Needed: A camera, scrapbook, scrapbook paper and glue.

  • First dress your little one in cute outfits of your choice and do a mini photo shoot with them (IF they are up for it… I did mine after a feed).
  • Also make sure to take some family selfies, as that is always great to have in a scrapbook.
  • Once you have them printed out you can make a photo college on some scrapbook paper (I found mine at my local Michael’s Craft store).
  • Once completed to your liking, you can put your scrapbook together.

Songs With Props

Material Needed: Computer, printer, Popsicle sticks and glue or tape.

My baby girl loves the Five Little Monkey’s song so I choose to do this one.

  • First I printed five different pictures of cartoon monkeys and a picture of a bed.
  • Once I have printed them and cut them out, I glued them onto Popsicle sticks.
  • Then when I sang the song to her I would use these props.
  • For a more personal idea you can do the “Family Finger song”, for your props just print out a picture of you, dad, baby and anyone else. This way when you are singing “Daddy finger, daddy finger where are you?” Hold up their dad’s picture and continue the song.

 

I hope these three ideas inspire you to create some memories in a unique way with your little one. If you choose to do any of these or know of some other great ideas I would love to see them, so please tag me on Twitter.

Until next time… Keep it crafty!

– Momma Bear Silva

Things To Consider When Buying Baby Hampers Online

Are you looking for the perfect gift for baby or a mum-to-be but just can’t decide what to get? Why not play it safe and get a hamper? It’s the ultimate way to spoil someone special. Here are some tips for buying the perfect baby hamper online.

  1. Know the Recipient

Mums-to-be need diapers and bottles, but it doesn’t mean they’ll love the contents of all baby hampers. The trick is to know what your recipient really likes and then pick a hamper to match her taste.

For instance, if she has a sweet tooth, what about a pamper hamper complete with sugary treats and chocolates, and perhaps even a bottle of wine, all for after baby is born. Or, if she’s a hands-on mum who prefers practical gifts, perhaps a hamper with a receiving blanket, nappies and pacifiers is the way to go.

Just don’t buy the first hamper you see. Browse through the entire range until you find one the recipient will really enjoy.

  1. Don’t Forget the Basket

While the contents are of course the most important part of the hamper, you should also spare a thought for presentation.

When you buy a hamper, you’ll notice there are a few different kinds of baskets. A picnic basket is the most traditional, but there are other options worth considering. Wooden carry baskets with handles make a stunning alternative and you could even paint them to add a pop of colour.

With a lovely basket to hold all her goodies, mum-to-be gets to enjoy two gifts in one, as she can use the basket to carry baby items once emptied.

  1. Don’t Panic Buy

Don’t leave it until the baby shower is just around the corner to pick out the perfect hamper. If you leave it until too late to buy a hamper online, you may encounter limited options and delayed deliveries.

  1. Always Check Delivery Dates

Once you’ve found the perfect baby hamper, you need to make sure it will arrive in time. Failing to check delivery dates and times is a common error when ordering items online. But, don’t assume whatever you order is just going to arrive within a few days. Some items may need to be sources for the hamper or could even be out of stock.

Be sure to check the delivery times in advance and place your hamper order with plenty of time to spare.

  1. Consider the Occasion

When it comes to buying a hamper, it can be too easy to concentrate on the recipient and contents but forget all about the occasion. New parenthood, welcoming a baby and even birthday hampers are all fantastic gift ideas, each with their own special nuances to represent the occasion. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • For new parents – A baby hamper is a great gift for new parents and gives them a much-needed boost, so you could include treats for mum and dad and a bouquet of flowers, too. You could even add something for baby, like a pair of booties or a little teddy.

Keep these tips in mind when buying a hamper online and you’re sure to get it perfectly right!

How To Prepare Your Family For Interstate Moving

Moving can be quite the unforgettable adventure, especially if you know the place you’re moving to is something you know you’d like to live in. However, preparing the family for moving interstate isn’t just a matter of asking everyone to pack. Here’s how to prepare your family for interstate moving, and how you can move in without hassle.

Simply Self Storage numbers indicate that a myriad of individuals actually use moving services, although 44-percent of their respondents are from individuals. Other users include corporate (36-percent), and the military (16-percent). 73-percent of things moved are household goods, with 20-percent being office equipment. Here are tips to prepare your family for the “big day”:

 

  • Assess everything you own with a thorough spring clean. This is especially if you’ve been living in your previous home for quite some time. Make sure you inspect every nook and cranny of your previous household and have a record of what you own and where everything is. This allows you to prepare what to take and what to leave behind.
  • Are you sure you need everything? Try to assess if there’s clutter you’ve saved but don’t exactly need and consider either selling them or throwing them away. This is because long distance movers can be quite expensive if you’ve decided to bring everything with you. If you do want to keep some clutter, try to assess how much of the costs would be allocated to them, and if you can carry that burden.
  • If you have large appliances, consider selling them. True, they might be a bit of a hassle buying newer appliances in your new area, but consider the costs of bringing the large appliances with you compared to buying a brand new one. Chances are, your old appliances might be in disrepair and may need replacement soon, anyway.
  • Get the right kind of equipment. If you’re hiring a moving company to help you, make sure you help them by getting the right kind of boxes to store your belongings in. Don’t just use boxes from the local store, as they’re built to handle groceries and not books, ornaments, and dishes. Label the boxes properly, too, and make your own inventory.
  • Get yourself a reliable moving company. If you’re moving interstate, chances are you may have shortlisted a few moving companies to help you along the way. Find best rated interstate moving companies that are not only able to move to the state with a relatively reasonable rate, but choose one that’s reputable and licensed.
  • Prepare for the move earlier, if it’s possible. Try to make sure you start and finish packing a few days before the actual move happens, as this can alleviate both you and your mover when it comes to any last-minute concerns. If you need to say goodbye to neighbors and friends, try to hold a party a few weeks before the move itself, so you have enough time to prepare.
  • Make sure to keep in touch with your moving company. Establishing good connection with your moving company can at least give you some measure of guarantee on the safety and security of your belongings throughout the move. This also allows you to properly follow-up on important matters, especially when there are sudden changes to weather and traffic.

Conclusion

If there’s anything the points above have taught us, it’s that interstate moving takes more than just preparing your things and hiring a mover to do the heavy-lifting for you. It takes knowledge on the location and the logistics, a keen eye on safety, and awareness to one’s surroundings are just some things to help ensure interstate moving is done without a hitch.

 

Steve Acker

Steve Acker has been writing as a frustrated novelist for the past 15 years, and he’s got into blog writing very recently thanks to the suggestion of a friend. As a contributor to sites such as 9kilo, Steve has applied his creative flair to his pieces, making them entertaining and informative at the same time. He loves reading books and talking with his friends in the nearby coffee shop if he has the time.

 

Knowing When Not To “Ovary” Step Your Boundaries

To empower change, you need to be a driver of change.

I started my blog almost three years ago and the driving factor was to inspire others’ through experiences that I share from my own life and from other amazing people. I always felt that we can learn so much from one another and it helps us empathize with the paths that people walk through.

Not one person lives the same life or has the same experiences as another. That is why it is important to create a community of understanding and support.

But it wasn’t until I got into the parenting world that I have seen another side of “human interest.”

We all have been asked a million in one questions about our lives by curious people. But when do the questions become too personal?

Now I am an open book ever since becoming a parent. What you see is what you get in layers (I have to be honest). I tolerate a lot of questions as I want to be respectful and nice but I really don’t think that anyone should endure it. Even if it is perceived as “normal” questions to ask.

Recently, I have been asked if I was expecting as a few people noticed that I was interested in attending a Baby Show (Thanks Facebook for sharing events that I am interested in. This is an issue that I don’t even want to touch on…yet). Now I am not sure how that conclusion came about since I do write a blog on parenting and am the Assignments Editor at The Baby Spot. But that is beside the point. Of course I shared my thoughts online as it can be therapeutic to vent online for all to see. Then it had me really thinking, “Why do people ask and why do they care?”

I read an article awhile back that spoke volumes about wanting or getting pregnant was no one’s business. And it is very true! Now I know many people who don’t see the harm in asking so let me bring in my experience as that is the only way I know how.

Back in 2014, I gave birth to a healthy little baby girl. We were all thrilled as my husband and I were married for already seven years so people were starting to really question if babies were in our future (didn’t know there was a timeline of having children after marriage but to some there is). I thought this could be the end of the baby questions but unfortunately it was not and I wasn’t too surprised. As we have been programmed to ask these “normal” questions.

We were even asked why it took us so long to get pregnant and if there was something wrong with us. Once I had the courage to respond, I replied with tears in my eyes, “There wasn’t a problem. We were just grieving the loss of our baby that we miscarried before we had our healthy baby girl.” This was the first time that we were disclosing this information to people and while many empathized, others continued with questions. So I slowly developed a thick skin to brush the insensitive questions and played it off that the people who were asking “didn’t know any better.”

But I think it is time to bring this to light as this momma and many others have had enough.

Unless a woman has come to you to talk about her pregnancy goals or life, don’t ask!

Reasons Why Not To Ask

We don’t know what one is going through and some women could be going through any one of these reasons as this is why you should not ask:

  • Grieving a miscarriage
  • Difficulty in getting pregnant
  • Financial strain (News flash! Kids are expensive)
  • Suffering from other health issues
  • In an abusive relationship or just a rocky relationship
  • Does not want children (There is nothing wrong with that)

The list could go on and on. The bottom line is that they are not your ovaries to care so much about. Did it ever occur to people that those constant questions could actually cause the person stress? Imagine the health issues that stress brings onto a person!

I am sure that the questions come with no malice attach to them but it doesn’t mean it should be acceptable either. Let’s break the “normal” and start asking less questions about others and start listening more. You would be surprised at how much someone can disclose without being asked.

Now onto the question on many minds…Is Momma Braga pregnant?

The answer is very simple and that is NO. Do I want another? Only time will tell. But if I do and I do become pregnant then I will announce it with great pride. In the meantime, I am enjoying being a mom to one energetic daughter who has taught me that being a mother is the hardest job that I will ever have.

Please let’s respect one another and let’s break old traditions. Be the change by leading by example. Change can only happen if you do something or in this case not ask the questions.

Until next time…Happy Parenting!

–          Momma Braga