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6 Tips On How To Balance Work and Life

By: Christopher Toste
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These days, work-life balance can seem like an impossible goal to achieve and with technology making workers more accessible around the clock, it makes it even more difficult. So how do you achieve some balance?

There is no single right way to attain a balanced life as it is a personal decision how one combines their career, spouse/significant other, children, friends and self into an integrated whole. The key is to develop creative solutions that can help you balance the responsibilities and joys of your multiple roles in life.

Here are some of my tips that I use to help me achieve work-life balance.

Build a Support Network
When there is a mutual understanding of the demands of work but the ability to always make time for one another is very important to have in your network. Therefore build a great support network with family and friends.

Build downtime into your schedule & Get Organized
When you plan your week, make it a point to schedule time with your family and friends, and activities that help you recharge. Set priorities, work smarter not harder, and delegate. By planning out activities can help balance out your work and personal responsibilities. It can also help keep you organized.
If a date night with your significant other or a softball game with friends is on your calendar, you’ll have something to look forward to and an extra incentive to manage your time well so you don’t have to cancel.

Remember that a little relaxation goes a long way
Even during a hectic day, you can take 10 or 15 minutes to do something that will recharge your batteries. For example, take a bath, read a novel, go for a walk, or listen to music. You have to make a little time for the things that ignite your joy.

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Establish Limits and Boundaries
Boundaries and limits define how you take charge of your time and space. Without limits it can be difficult to say “no.” Remind yourself often that your boundaries are necessary for balancing work and life.

Enjoy Quality Family Time
Remember to enjoy quality family time when you can as there are no real work emergencies unless you work serving the community. Cherish each moment spent together and build a strong relationship with your significant other and with your children as they can be instrumental to your success.

Vacation or Staycation
It is important to take a vacation or staycation as it can help you recharge and relax from the hustle and bustle of work. If you can’t get away then plan some activities that you can do in and around your own city. Just having an escape from the daily work routine will make a difference in the way you feel.

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These are some tips that I use to help me but remember everyone balances their life differently. One of my mentors gave me a great advice that I would like to pass onto all of you. “To have a truly balanced life, you must have goals for the following: financial, spiritual, physical and relational. These goals must tie in all aspects into your life.” Find what works for you and before you know it, you can achieve balance!

About the Author

With a passion for real estate and strong business skills, Chris hopes to establish himself as an authority in the Toronto Real Estate market and surrounding communities.

To ensure that client expectations are always surpassed, Chris has secured a team of professionals who share his uncompromising professionalism and integrity. As a full service brokerage, whether looking for a mortgage lender, real estate lawyer or a home inspector we have put together a group that can fulfill all our client’s needs. A strong focus on the customer is what differentiates Chris from the rest of the pack.

Specialties
Toronto Real Estate, Houses for sale in Toronto, Toronto Condos, MLS Toronto, Toronto real estate listings, Toronto and Surrounding Area’s Real Estate

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Transition from Workaholic to Stay-At-Home Mom

I was raised in a home where work ethic was very important and I held onto that mindset throughout my work history. I have always been known to work very hard and give 110% at every job that I had since I was 16 years of age. I never said, ‘no’, to working overtime, evenings or weekends. I had jobs in retail, office and in social services. So you can say that I have had a mix of experience but always stayed loyal to the employer I worked for.

Many times I would put work above anything else as I became the “job”. I didn’t realize then that I allowed my job to define who I was as a person. For some odd reason I lost myself in the process of being dedicated and it took me to start a family and to get laid off to realize it.

So why was it hard for me to digest the fact that I was not going back to work? Why should I not be jumping over the moon as I get to spend more time with my daughter? Why did I have mix feelings on the next chapter of my life? Who was I?

These were just some of the questions that were on my mind. But with everything in life, we eventually find the answers.

It was hard to come to terms that I wasn’t going back to work (due to my lay-off) or in other words working outside of the home. Even though it was the best decision for my family for me to stay home for a little longer, it was still hard. I felt that I worked so hard to build my professional portfolio and now it was over in an instant. So why was it hard for me?!

It was difficult as I knew how hard it would be to re-enter the workforce. The labour market is a fast pace and competitive one, being out of it for another year can be a real disadvantage for anyone. Employers may look at your skills as outdated or feel that you could be a little rusty from being inactive for a while. This made me worry about our family’s future and how I can financially contribute to it.

Another reason as to why it was difficult were all the feelings associated with not working. You feel that you don’t have value, feel guilty and sadness as you are no longer contributed to society or to the economy. These are overwhelming feelings to feel and the factors that contributed to these feelings were the expectations through society, my own and how I allowed work to define who I was.

Don’t get me wrong as it is a blessing to stay at home to raise your children as it’s a time that you can never get back. But it was hard for me since work is all that I knew with the exception of my one year maternity leave. I felt that I would be judged by many on the outside and can hear the whispers under their voices. “They must have lots of money for her to stay home.” “She does nothing all day.” So you can say that I was feeling guilty and ashamed in staying home and that I should be doing so much more.

The real issue was that I allowed others to affect the way I looked at myself and my worth. But at times it was hard not to listen to the comments that I got. For example, “You don’t need to buy us anything as you don’t have a job.” Or my favorite has been, “Well, you don’t work.”

It has been a hard transition to go from workaholic to stay-at-home mom but I have finally embraced it. I had to find me first since I lost myself and soon after I learned acceptance.

It has been a journey with many lessons learned. I learned that a job is only a piece of you and it shouldn’t define who you are. Motherhood and being a stay-at-home mom provided me the opportunity to find myself and it gave me a voice that I never thought I had. There is so much more to me and I can’t be defined by a job description.

I learned that people are going to judge or make insensitive comments no matter what you say or do and the most important lesson here is that these people don’t matter. What you think of yourself matters most.

I learned that I do have a job and it is the most important job in the world and it is one that requires me 24/7. I am a caregiver, cook, nurse, teacher, planner, but most importantly I am a mother and wife. I do contribute to society and to the economy as I am raising a child; a future adult who will make her mark in the world.

I am proud to be a stay-at-home mom and am grateful that I was able to do this now. I have stopped feeling guilty and ashamed as my role is just as important as any job.

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So who am I?

I am a strong, independent woman who is a wife, mother, friend, niece, cousin and daughter. I am someone who supports, encourages and cares for others. I am creative with a set of many diverse skills. I have a voice, value and worth. But most importantly, I am me and I am so happy that I found her!

Until next time … Happy Parenting!

– Momma Braga