Tag: Kindergarten

I Survived My First Week Of Kindgarten

She held my hand excitedly with her backpack on her back and ready to conquer Kindergarten. “I am so excited for school. I have been waiting so long to go,” exclaimed Nikki. I took a deep breath and knew it was time to let go a little more.

After months of preparing myself mentally and physically for the beginning of Nikki’s first day and week of school. It appears that the heart still pulls all the weight no matter how much we think we are ready. I re-lived those sleepless nights with the anticipation of Nikki starting school. It all came down to this one day and wondering how Nikki will do.

So many questions went running through my head like will she make friends? Will she adjust? Will she cry?

First Day

When the day finally arrived. Nikki woke up excited that it was her first day of school. We started our morning routine and we made sure to take those first day photos with her beautiful poster designed by ID Inspired Designs. We packed her lunch and were ready to start her school day.

We arrived early and walked to school together (while I was holding her hand tightly). As we walked, Nikki kept telling me how happy and excited she was. She went on to tell me that she is going to learn so much and grow. At this point I started to feel that lump in your throat when you are about to cry. I stopped myself and said, “You have to be strong! Don’t let her see you cry!”

We went inside the classroom and the teacher directed us to find a cubby. As Nikki hung her jacket and bag, I realized that I have an independent young lady and could not have been more proud.

At this point it was time to sit at the carpet to start the day. Without hesitation, Nikki went on her way. I approached Nikki and I wished her a magical day and told her how much I loved her. Nikki turned to me and said, “Ok mom. Bye. I’m ok. You can go now.”

Cue Waterfalls

As I walked to my car wiping the little tears that were making their way down. I started to think about that very first day that she was born. I remember the doctor placing her on my chest and with her curious eyes looking up at me as if she was reconfirming that I was her mother. I looked down at her and said, “Welcome to the world Nikki. We have been waiting a really long time for you. I promise that I will always be there to protect you.” But how can I keep that promise when I have released her into the world of school?

By the time I got to my car, there were no more tears but waterfalls at this point. I lost control of the overwhelming emotions that I worked so hard to contain. But I couldn’t as I remembered how hard it was to conceive her after my miscarriage and how grateful we were to finally hold her in our arms. I wasn’t ready to let go no matter how much I said I was. However, the tears were the release that I needed to reassure me that she was going to be ok. My tears were a lot better than having her tears on this first special day. She was ready to let me go and that I am grateful for.

The rest of the day I watched my clock to see when it was time to pick her up again. I couldn’t wait to see her and hug her and ask how her day went.

End of First Day

I waited patiently outside to see my child’s glowing face coming out from the classroom. Nikki came out with the same excited smile that she went in with that day and I knew it was a success! She had a great day and that was all that mattered to me at that moment.

First Full Week

Luckily the first full week of school had no tears from either party and each day was enjoyed as Nikki asked to go back to school. This made the mornings much easier to cope with. What we did find is that afterschool was harder as Nikki would be very tired from the long day. Some days she would squeeze in a little power nap which helped her the rest of the evening until bedtime. The days that a nap wasn’t a possibility made it a little more difficult for all of us as cranky would be her middle name. But this is the adjustment and transition phase which we hope is just a phase. However, the silver lining is that she is enjoying the daily stimulation of school and all that needs to be learned.

We always take it one day and week at a time with adjusting along the way. It seems that we do a lot of that in this journey we call parenthood.

As we just completed the second week I realized something from the first day. Maybe my promise hasn’t been broken to protect her. By raising her to protect herself when I am not there is the best way to keep my promise to her….At the end of the day, I am just happy to say that I survived my first week of Kindergarten!

Until next time…Happy Parenting!

-Momma Braga

Getting Ready For My Kindergartener

Routine, learning and more growing is what to look forward to when your child starts school and it is one that we have been anticipating in our home. We are in full “Preparing for Kindergarten” mode!

I have officially registered Nikki for Kindergarten and here in Ontario, it is a full school day which is different from when I went to school. I only had to go for half a day which I do recall already being such a long day to be away from home. But I know that Nikki is going to love being away for the full day, especially with all the fun learning she will be doing.

Nikki is much more braver than I am and she is definitely a lot less shy than I was growing up.

So here I am a mom of a child who is going to embark on school life in September and I am embracing the experience as best as possible.

I am not sure if I will be able to prepare myself in time to drop her off on that first day of school as I clearly remember her first day of swim school…I was fighting back the tears as she left me without saying good-bye. Therefore, I can only imagine what the big school day will bring me. I am thinking that there is a lot of preparation that I need to do to help all of us adjust and that means there are a few areas to tackle before the big day.

Now there are tons of articles out on how to prepare your child for Kindergarten and as I read each one it started to make me feel a lot more anxious. The list is long and I want my child to excel so the pressure has already started! I figure that I need to put steps in place to help me as the parent prepare myself for my Kindergartener.

Emotions In Check And Ready

Emotions are wonderful and can be difficult at times to keep in check. I have noticed that my daughter feeds off of my emotions and energy so it is time to keep mine in check especially around going to school. I have been keeping my energy and conversations positive and exciting for her big day which is helping her feel confident for the new adventure. Her confidence in turn is making me feel a lot better about this big step in her life. Any time I do catch myself feeling a little overwhelmed with the preparation checklist, I take a break from it and take a nice bubble bath (those do wonders!).

Communicating With Other Parents

Best way to prepare yourself as a parent is to talk to other parents. I have started to ask questions to my friends who have already been down this route and it is comforting to me as I get to learn from them. Every parents’ experience and advice all differ which provides me with a wealth of perspectives. Therefore, talk with others and if you know parents that have children that are attending your child’s school then they are the best to ask!

Luckily for us, our neighbours attend the same school that my daughter will be going to and I got the inside scoop on the school, programs and the staff which helps in preparing me for the first drop off.

Get To Know The School

Don’t be afraid to ask the school the questions that you need in order to feel comfortable with this transition. Get to know the school. The school that we will be attending offers an information night which I think is great. It is an evening where parents and child can attend the school to get instructions on how we can help their child prepare for Kindergarten. They will also be providing a bag of materials to support the child’s learning. My daughter is already excited for this “goodie” bag.

I will be using this opportunity to get Nikki and I comfortable with the school setting and also meet the teachers in person. I hope they are ready for all the Momma Braga questions! 😉

Manage Expectations

Expectations are important to manage as you want to set yourself and your child up for success. This is why I am keeping my expectations realistic and being prepared as best as I can for the bumps along the way. This is one big step for all of us so I want to make sure that Nikki knows that we are by her side when she needs us but at the same time helping her build her independence. She will need to hone that skill if she is expecting to take on the world (This is why I need to manage my expectations as I always set them high). 😉

These are my four steps in helping parents prepare for Kindergarten as we are a crucial part to the transition and once we are confident, our child will also be too. Now I am not guaranteeing that there will be no tears as I know I will be crying my heart out (I have already started with just writing this article) but these steps might make it just a little easier. Above all, embrace, love and have fun!

Until next time…Happy Parenting!

-Momma Braga